Tag: relationships

You don’t achieve this ideal simply by being a nice guy and preaching to women to try to change their behavior. (Picture courtesy of Flickr’s Internet Archive Book Images.)

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A refrain I hear every so often is that porn gives men unrealistic expectations about sex. That may be true, but I would say that a bigger problem is mainstream movies giving men unrealistic expectations about romance.

I grew up in the 1980s watching many teen movies where the socially-awkward underdog manages to steal the smoking-hot popular girl from her handsome — but a total jerk — chad boyfriend just by being a good-natured sweetie-pie. (more…)

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As Valentine’s Day approached, I decided that I should perhaps commit myself to the insane asylum that is modern technological courtship. I knew it would be painful and time-consuming, but this year I decided to devote more effort to finding my own modern-day Brünhilde. (more…)

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Jim Goad has produced a short film to accompany his latest essay, “Why I Never Gave Up on Women,” on why he never gave up despite all the challenges and pitfalls he’s been through with them. (more…)

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As a man who was born with ample cognitive aptitude but almost zero wisdom, it’s taken me several decades to realize what in life is worth fighting for, what’s worth getting upset about, what I truly need, and what only gets in the way of my needs.

My dad drank a full bottle of hard liquor every day until he went sober at age 58 and died of colon cancer less than a year later. (more…)

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We’ve already mentioned Nietzsche’s concept of ressentiment,[1] and The Golden One unpacks this as someone who “blames the misfortunes of himself on someone else.” (more…)

John Singleton Copley, “The Copley Family,” 1776

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Christopher Lasch famously described the family as a “haven in a heartless world.”[1] How is the world heartless, and how is the family a haven? For Lasch, the heartlessness of the world has everything to do with the increasing liberalization and economization of life. (more…)

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Every so often a woman writes something online that makes me want to punch her until my fist comes out the other side of her head, but I can’t do that, because they’d send me back to prison.

This time around, what got my Irish up is an article with the verb-free headline “The Pandemic of Lonely Men Not Women’s Problem,” which was written by a certain Melanie Allen, whose looks are, thankfully, not my problem. (more…)

Arno Breker, “Orpheus and Eurydice”

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

Whether you’re passing out flowers and chocolate, writing a card to your mom (call her!), or loving on your gal pals, celebrating St. Valentine’s Day can be inspiring. The most popular account of St. Valentine’s life is that he was martyred for secretly marrying Christians during their persecution under the Roman Emperor Claudius II. (more…)

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One of the main tenets of pick-up artistry (PUA) is that women are attracted to psychopathic traits and that men should therefore cultivate such traits in order to attract women. There is a kernel of truth to this claim. However, White Nationalist men looking for the future mother of their children should note that mindlessly emulating psychopaths is not an advisable strategy. High-quality white women do not find anti-social behavior appealing. (more…)

Boomhauer from King of the Hill.

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The good is one thing, and the sensuously pleasant, another. The wise choose the good. The foolish, being motivated by greed and avarice, choose the pleasant. — The Upanishads

Women are attracted to psychopaths — of the factor 1 kind, anyway. In one study, researchers showed women videos of men on a date. The more psychopathic the man was, the more women liked him, on average. The women also said the psychopathic men looked better in still photos, proving they perceived the men as having better looks. (more…)

Æthelred the Unready, as pictured in The Chronicle of Abindon.

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You’ve probably heard at some point or another of the Anglo-Saxon king Æthelred the Unready. His name means nobly advised, or well-advised. His moniker, the Unready — Unræed in Old English — means unadvised, or poorly advised. Æthelred presided over England’s defeats by the Danish, first against Sweyn (Sven) Forkbeard and after that to Sweyn’s son Canute (Knut) the Great. While he did regain his throne, it is doubtful whether the old Anglo-Saxon Kingdom and the Wessex/Cerdicing dynasty ever recovered. The tragedy at Hastings was midwifed by Æthelred’s poor counsel. (more…)

Clockwise, from upper left: Clint Eastwood, Rod Stewart, Charles Lindbergh, and Elon Musk.

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Case Studies of Polygamous White Men

Although white men have probably been the most monogamous historically, not all exhibit the phenotype:

1. Charles Lindbergh, the first man to fly an airplane across the Atlantic Ocean, sired six children with his American wife, Anne Morrow, in addition to a combined five children to two women from Bavaria, as well as two with Valeska, an East Prussian aristocrat who was his private secretary in Europe. (more…)

Pepe the Frog has a sociosexual phenotype.

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Ancestral mating patterns reconstructed from DNA reveal that “the pair-bond is a ubiquitous feature most commonly observed in the form of serial monogamy.” In other words, having one spouse is the norm for humans.

An undercurrent of polygamy has coexisted with the monogamal norm, however. (more…)