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(Part 1)
What Men Should Know About Women: Social Conformism and Subculture
One of the sentiments that pops up whenever America’s ongoing gender wars are brought up is, why don’t more women say something? After all, modern America’s culture does not benefit most heterosexual white women. Female happiness has been declining for decades.[1] Pop culture encourages us to party hard and view young, single white men as our enemies while ignoring the disproportionate amount of crime and chaos unleashed by non-white populations. Most feminist circles will instantly ex-communicate a woman who brings up interracial crime statistics. Modern feminism overlaps heavily with anti-white movements. White women are even told to sit back and let brown women “have their turn.”
Men who find it confusing that so many women remain quiet about this absurd situation need to remember that women feel a much stronger need to conform to social standards. Especially those of friends and classmates. The anti-feminist author Rachel Wilson has written extensively about this on her Twitter and in her published books.[2] One of her main points is that women who see through modern America’s dysfunctional gender relations often conceal their actual viewpoints due to fear of social ostracization. She has pointed out videos of young women being asked politically incorrect questions. Often one of the girls will start to say something “wrong” only to be corrected by a friend. Wilson calls this the “Sisterhood Effect.”
I’ve personally witnessed many examples of this. I have had female coworkers, relatives, and friends privately share opinions on topics like gender, feminism, or race that they would never say publicly. The power of social shaming is greatly weakened when a woman has the option of joining an alternate subculture that won’t shame her. Very few women are “loners.” Most women naturally like to feel like we are part of a community. We are also more prone to signaling our views rather than bluntly saying them. This means that if Nationalist politics went mainstream, there would be: 1) A surge of women jumping onboard for opportunistic reasons, 2) Women coming out of the woodwork who finally feel comfortable voicing their genuine feelings about living in a Multi-Cult Experiment. We are arguably closer to the latter happening than people think. As an example, there is now a minor trend on TikTok of white girls posting “never mix” memes and denouncing miscegenation. Many of them get 50,000 + likes and hundreds of thousands of views.
The “Never Mix” meme went viral before Shiloh Hendrix. It has also taken on some ethnic connotations (I’ve seen multiple Russians post counter-memes insisting they are more attractive due to being of mixed Slavic x Central Asian descent).
There has also been a surge in women signaling frustration with black behavior:
I am not claiming women are going to become as ethnocentric as men or that society is near a tipping point where millions of women embrace explicitly pro-white politics. I am merely pointing out that there are some women willing to signal a strong preference for white men and this will increase if the Dissident Right can form a healthy, alternative culture. Many women have been socially shamed and made to feel it’s “racist” to not mix. I have been told that – to my face – twice by Hispanics. There are some women who resent this. Anti-white propaganda about the supposed irresistibility of Black and Brown men should not be taken at face value. Race-mixing is common and it is a major issue, but there is also a certain amount of sexual propaganda meant to demoralize and dishearten white men.
Dating Advice for Right Wing & Nationalist Gen Z Men
If I were giving a male friend my own age dating advice, I would not encourage him to hold out for a woman who is ‘100% redpilled’ or as outspoken as the TikTok posters in the screenshots. Andrew Anglin went overboard with the woman-bashing (likely for monetary reasons, in my opinion) but he did have a point. Gen Z is polarized along ideological lines and most men are not going to find themselves dating a based e-celeb.
I think that a young man’s best bet is to cast a wide – yet still discerning – net and try to find a woman who is not a radical Leftist and who has a healthy lifestyle and an open mind.
There will be false starts. Women are pickier than men, although online dating statistics exaggerate this because women’s behavior online and in real life are different. I’ve witnessed this many times. I have had friends who would create dating profiles, get large numbers of matches, add a handful back… and then lose interest. They were less picky when dating men who had approached them in real life.
There are countless factors that an online dating profile doesn’t capture: pheromones, charisma, natural charm, voice, etc.
There are also red flags that I would encourage men to avoid:
- Septum piercings. This is often a way to signal that one is a pothead.
- Radical leftism, especially adherence to Marxist Third Worldism. No matter what a man believes about women ‘changing for an alpha’ – it is a bad idea to get into a relationship with a woman whose worldview is based off resenting you for being a white man. Not all leftists are equally bad. I’ve met some left-wing women who were easy going hippies and others who genuinely resented strong white men.
- Excessive alcohol use.
- Signs of a highly narcissistic personality.
- A promiscuous past. If someone cheats on a previous partner then their odds of cheating on you are much higher – my brother knows a young man who had an affair with a girl in a committed relationship and was deeply hurt when, a few months later, she did the same thing to him.
I would also encourage men to be careful about dating women who have a negative relationship with their own femininity. I’ve recently noticed a trend of young men posting memes about “tomboy girlfriends.” The TikTok Nationalist Scene made quite a big deal out of this a few months ago and a lot of them were saying they wanted one.
Those memes strike me as, frankly, a bit out of touch with reality. Women often use style, hair, and accessories as identity signals. The site Return of Kings created an immense outcry several years ago when it published an article called Girls With Short Hair Are Damaged [3] which, while controversial, discussed this tendency in detail. On a personal level, I was a somewhat tomboyish teen and have noticed a difference between women who naturally have stereotypically masculine interests and those who adopt a masculine identity as a trauma response (as something of a tangent, I am also the female half of a pair of fraternal twins – and there is evidence that we are more prone to developing stereotypically masculine opinions[4]).
I think a young man would have the best odds by: learning to approach women in the real world, pursuing women who are in touch with their femininity and not overtly anti-white, discussing politics in private and not immediately bringing up controversial views in public places, avoiding weirdos and cranks who drive women away, and taking time to learn how to read women.
My hope is that America’s White Advocacy movement will grow into a healthy alternative culture that draws in ambitious, psychologically fit young men and women. I want to see our people form happy relationships and network with each other. This will take time and a cultural framework that pushes away weirdos while mobilizing our better elements. Americans will need to genuinely analyze, in a dispassionate way, the cultural fault lines that have allowed hostile elements to cause severe cultural damage. We will need to continue pushing the Overton Window in a positive direction and delegitimize anti-white Narratives. It won’t be easy, but I think this is the most practical short-term solution.
Notes
[1] Stevenson, B., & Wolfers, J. (2009). The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness. Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco, Working Paper Series, 1.00048.000. https://doi.org/10.24148/wp2009-11
[2] Wilson, R. (2021). Occult Feminism: the Secret History of Women’s Liberation.
[3] Tuthmosis Sonofra [Pen Name of Daryush Valizadeh]. (2014, January 17). Girls With Short Hair Are Damaged | Return of Kings. TheRedArchive. https://theredarchive.com/blog/Return-of-Kings/girls-with-short-hair-are-damaged.21841
[4] Miller, E. M., & Martin, N. (1995). Analysis of the Effect of Hormones on Opposite-Sex Twin Attitudes. Acta Geneticae Medicae et Gemellologiae: Twin Research, 44(1), 41–52. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0001566000001884
24 comments
Thoughtful and encouraging segment.
Thank you for sharing your viewpoints on this important matter. I learned a lot from your insights. This is the second thoughtful article this week that was written by an intelligent and mature woman, and sharing important insights. Thank you editors for finding women who are ready to contribute to Our well being.
Perhaps, with at least two if not a third or fourth, you could set up a regular podcast that is healthier and a better example than the low-brow slop currently making the rounds and getting the views. Maybe this could even lead to an in real life friendship, kinship and dating network that is healthy and created by and for our young people with elders providing counsel if sought out.
Great article and great progress.
Speaking of relationships, how do you feel about white man and former police officer Derek Chauvin marrying an Asian woman? Do you think that Derek set a good example for other white men and Women?
Hi Turd –
I haven’t given it any thought. It is sad that American middle class and blue collar men have been robbed of status amongst White striver women yet are high status to Asian women at least until now.
I tend to see the issue in those terms. Chauvin is a guy going about his life not thinking too much about the world as are most. I won’t condemn him for his personal choices. What I tend to do is think about the role of power in shaping the fates of tens of millions. White middle class men are robbed of status as of the 70s and at the same time White women were liberated to ascend. Nature states that women do not marry down the status hierarchy. From the 70s through the early aughts however, Asian women gained status by marrying a White man of middle class and above. I bet with our reduced status that has become less true as Asian men advance in status, wealth and power and we have been pogromed.
I think it is a waste of thought, time and energy to focus on a tragedy like Chauvin marrying out of his race that is a result of much larger forces at play. I can’t control Chauvin. However, I can understand the forces that create the conditions where he is even confronted with such a choice and then makes it. What we must do is find a way to rid ourselves of the society where a police officer who is dutiful is not surrounded by adoring and loving White women attracted to him and throwing themselves at him and there are no Asian women around to do so in their absence. We must also rid ourselves of the society where he is forced to police and baby sit violent savages and as reward for protecting his kin in their ghetto he is thrown in jail because the savage overdosed on heroin peddled by the Sacklers and Mayorkas and Sheinbaum China to Mexico to US cartels.
Hating and blaming Chauvin in place of naming and blaming the Sacklers, Mayorkas, and endless organizations that elevated the savages like Floyd upon our people is to me a tragic approach to take in thinking about our problems and what we must do to solve them.
I bet with our reduced status that has become less true as Asian men advance in status, wealth and power and we have been pogromed.
I’ve met plenty of Asian women who have a strong preference for White men, maybe due to physical reasons. There are some tall people in every ethnic group but, on average, they’re shorter and its not exactly rare for Asian women to say they want a tall, blonde partner. Some of them seem to also have really odd ideas about what mixed half-Asians look like. I had one Chinese woman (with multiple Asian looking, mixed babies) tell me she wanted her next one to have bright red hair.
I’ll offer my .02–
Re: former police officer Derek Chauvin marrying an Asian woman?
Do you think that Derek set a good example for other white men and Women?
Chauvin provided Whites with a great example of why White men should not marry Asians. It will not win you any points in proving you’re not a so-called bigot, and when push comes to shove, she won’t stand by your side while you get publicly and unjustly crucified.
Chauvin provided Whites with a great example of why White men should not marry Asians. It will not win you any points in proving you’re not a so-called bigot, and when push comes to shove, she won’t stand by your side while you get publicly and unjustly crucified.
Exactly my thoughts. I have seen a lot of men repeat tall tales about Asian women (“they’re more loyal than those White women”) and ignore all the cases of Asian women jumping ship.
There’s also frankly a lot of negative elements of Asian culture that certain people choose to ignore.
Many Whites are also not sufficiently concerned about Oriental immigration into the Anglosphere. They’re usually thinking: Oriental people are smart, quiet, studious, family-oriented, not violent; relatively law abiding, however research shows they ‘feel’ the least ‘American’ of all U.S. citizens. They view themselves as non-White POC & vote accordingly (for bigger govt, gun control, speech censorship, greater handouts) and perhaps most importantly, Oriental Asians are the group in America which most wants more immigrants into the U.S.!
Heretical Insights: What About Asians?
https://hereticalinsights.substack.com/p/the-price-of-racial-diversity?open=false#%C2%A7what-about-asians
Derek Chavin never portrayed himself as a White Advocate. He was just a normal police officer who had his life destroyed for using force when arresting a dangerous criminal who had drugs in his system and had previously committed armed robbery against a pregnant woman… literally just a random guy doing his job and getting attacked by the media.
Thanks, I think that a podcast like that is an interesting long term idea. There’s a liberal women’s podcast called Red Scare (haven’t listened to it but have heard of it several times) that brings in quite a few viewers. There’s probably a decent demand for something similar but with a more right wing & race realist viewpoint.
I have seen bits of it. Red Scare is looks like a gate keeping situation – intentional or not. It is some spoiled former liberal girls in NY who found a nice lucrative niche complaining about, “the Woke” ala Shapiro … …
There is definitely a need for something that is not carnival hogslop, but put on by serious White women addressing the very serious we must confront. This is an interesting development in the UK. ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1X5ojTynrE4)
Ideally young men, all men, can step up and perform our duty across the West and not leave these women to organize and defend themselves on their own.
Emily Youcis and Warren Balogh are married and have two children together. Very 14. Well done. And Shiloh Hendrix just wants to be a mother.
”Americans will need to genuinely analyze, in a dispassionate way, the cultural fault lines that have allowed hostile elements to cause severe cultural damage.”
The oldest, ongoing war is the one between men, and women for dominance in relationships. The second oldest war is the one between the jews, and the other races for world dominance. The jews recognized the ongoing war between men, and women, and used their vast power to create feminist movements where ever they blessed the rest of mankind with their presence. 🐍
“The oldest, ongoing war is the one between men, and women for dominance in relationships.”
It may seem ironic to say, but I couldn’t disagree with you more, that the oldest, ongoing battle is between women & men. Guys are bigger, stronger, and can be appropriately violent & defensive as needed. It is very natural for women to cling to them for protection.
The notion that men are our natural enemies is complete off-the-wall Jewish bs. It’s right up there with the disturbing brainwashing that a tiny human inside my body (with a distinct beating heart of its own, + a different blood type than me) is just more of “my body” which I can freely alter & delete with all the necessary moral forethought of going in for a teeth cleaning.
“It is very natural for women to cling to them for protection.”
It is natural for women to watch men with the eyes of a predator, and inject cutting remarks when the men are experiencing doubt, or weakness. 🙃
The serpent lurks everywhere and strikes from the shadows. Nice to see that asshole dave portnoy have a humiliating kvetchout against his employee, once more proving us right.
Part 2 did not disappoint.
I fear that some of the over-the-top and frankly ridiculous rhetoric from Fuentes and the Groypers about women is discouraging younger White women from looking into racialist ideas. I can easily see how a White girl in high school or college who is having doubts about diversity and multiculturalism might take one look at the way some of those guys talk and say, “to hell with this.” I wouldn’t blame them.
Like you said, most people, and especially most females, don’t want to be alone in their beliefs, but want to be part of a community. But who wants to be part of a community that seems to have nothing but contempt for them?
Thanks!
I fear that some of the over-the-top and frankly ridiculous rhetoric from Fuentes and the Groypers about women is discouraging younger White women from looking into racialist ideas. I can easily see how a White girl in high school or college who is having doubts about diversity and multiculturalism might take one look at the way some of those guys talk and say, “to hell with this.” I wouldn’t blame them.
At this point, it seems like some of them are playing a game where they try to outdo each other and say the most outrageous things about women possible. I really do think part of the motivation is financial. Fuentes is more of a showman / performance artist than anything else and more clicks = more donations.
…and I completely agree that the rhetoric used by the Groypers drives women away.
I’m fine with people criticizing women, or pointing out that the modern system is weaponizing women’s instincts against our own societies, but once people start lying or being irrational it bothers me. I checked Dave Sims anti-Feminist article (which was making the rounds) before writing this and he goes off on a tangent about women liking small, cute animals too much. Liking baby animals is not a bad trait. I think a man should actually be more concerned if a woman doesn’t like animals.
A good place to meet healthy White men and women is at a club (not nightclub) or organization that does something enjoyable such as a hiking, painting or cycling club. The far left deplores happiness and seeks to pull others down in misery. This leads to miserable and hateful people.
In a club or organisation that makes people happy doing something positive you are more likely to meet mentally healthy people. I almost never see dedicated cyclists or hikers with nose rings.
Someone here a while back suggested historic re-enactment and renaissance fairs. These tend to be a supermajority White crowd encompassing more suburban to rural folk with people who care about history and cultural preservation. One shouldn’t go just to meet women but people, and after a few times of getting-to-know-you, the opportunity might present itself for a night out with a single gal. You never know who you might meet or be introduced to.
Another possibility is volunteering with a pet rescue sanctuary – dogs cats, etc. The people there are likely to be White, friendly and pro-social with soft-core conservative values.
Brilliant!
🙂
I often note that the earlier nationalist movements were successful in engaging women the moment they began to have first-class artists in their midst – poets and novelists, painters, sculptors and especially musicians and actors. Mostly the first generation of the movement consisted of scholars, journalists and politicians, leaving women cold. But the turning point comes when nationalism becomes a cultural movement that encompasses both high culture and popular entertainment.
I appreciate the article and I also believe that finding ways to bring young White men and women together to is a priority.
The most infuriating thing I’ve encountered in this “movement” is how clueless men are in how they relate to women who dip their toes in the WN pool. Year after year I see/read interactions between our youth that illustrate a huge disconnect between them. If I were to analyze it I’d say that the men are puffing themselves up in what they perceive as impressive ways, but their puffiness comes across as rude or weak to the women.
It’s as though the men are rushing to impress the women and they attempt do so competitively with the other men. This makes sense, but it often leaves the women at a loss in how to communicate because the men come across as more focused on how they are viewed in comparison to other men, rather than developing an understanding with the woman and possibly developing a connection with her.
So many women pop into the movement, get embroiled in some sort of discussional disaster with spergy or posturing men, then just disappear. One less unicorn…
There’s also a huge level of mistrust from men to women because there are far too many ways for women to get offended and punish men, and we’ve all been left baffled by female freakouts in our personal lives. If we could alleviate the ability (and desire) of women to abuse men publicly and professionally for no justifiable reason and without repercussions to them, we’d open up greater opportunities for connection.
I suspect that’s why men prefer socializing online under some form of pseudonym. That’ll get us nowhere.
If our youth could mingle with each other in real life without anti-White influences and public monitoring it would be great. Unfortunately, all we have as meetups these days are intellectual speaking events which don’t necessarily appeal to women.
The Amren conference is great but there’s always so many single men and so few single women.
What to do? My daughter says we need more cultural events, which I’d personally enjoy more than listening to speakers, but how do you inspire artists, musicians, chefs, (and whatever else) to break free of the societal chains imposed on them when their expressive talents are tied to their income, and their income can be negatively impacted simply because they like their people and their culture?
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